Cool Mike
Mendocino. Calif.
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This is probably not the best place to look for a shoulder to cry on, but I really have no one else, we have no kids, or other living relatives, or friends that RV, its just us.
My DW has been ill for many years now, and now is also waiting on knee surgery on both knees, which will take the better part of a year for the recovery of both surgeries. So for three years now our MH has just set in our back yard, plugged in.
I do start it, and even drive it a few miles, once or twice a month, and keep it up and ready to go.
But she wants me to take one of our two small Shih Tzu dogs and go some place, and have some fun, but I cant imagine going any place alone. We have been married for 40 years, and have hardly ever been apart.
As it is now, every day I will find time to take the dogs and go sit in or even take a nap in the Motor Home and dream. But haven't spent a night away yet, except in a hospital parking lot.
We are on our 4th RV now, and have been using them since 1968, and its hard to give up, or start doing alone.
I guess Im just ranting, and feeling sorry for my self now, so thanks for listening anyway.
I guess we dont have a thread for this sort of thing.
Mike.
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2oldman
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I would consider it, depending on how she 'really' feels. Perhaps she feels you're around "too much" and whining and it would be better for you to get away. Talking about it a lot may reveal where she's really coming from. And you might surprise yourself if you start by taking short trips and see how it goes. And definitely keep in contact with her often!
It sounds like she's going to need a lot of care after the surgery.. from you?
Things could be worse.. be thankful you have a Dw. My girlfriend left me and I'll tell you.. talk about lonely and down. I wish I had your problem. Maybe that will help you feel better.
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JimVan
Pleasant Run, Ohio
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Sorry to here about the health problems your wife is having, I will say a prayer for both of you. I hope there are blue skyes ahead for both of you,
hang in there.
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Tiger4x4RV
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I've been alone for many years, increasingly disabled with knee problems lately, and just had a total knee replacement 16 days ago. My motivation for physical therapy is to get better fast to get out there camping again.
Your DW probably misses your trips as much as you do. Perhaps you could do those brief solo trips to scout out great places to take her after surgery, and bring stories and photos back to her? A great place could even be sitting in the comfy RV at some scenic spot in your own town.
You said "...she wants me to take one of our two small Shih Tzu dogs and go some place, and have some fun, but I cant imagine going any place alone." This may mean that she feels responsible for your happiness or lack thereof, and that's a big burden to put on her.
Your profile says you live in Mendocino, which is practically like living in heaven. Plan a two-hour trip alone and go back to her filled with a sense of accomplishment about that, and she will probably be happier because you are happier.
Best wishes to both of you!
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edited 07/27/08 03:19pm by Tiger4x4RV *
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fla-gypsy
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Mike it is hard to hear the despair in your voice. I truly hope your DW can rebound to the point where both of you can return to doing something that we all love. My prayers are with you.
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CA Traveler
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Try a short trip and see how it works for both of you. Be sure you have a cell phone so that there can be continual communication. She suggested it, apparently wants it for you so try it.
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jim87vette
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I have had a tough year and a half myself.Someone tried to run me over on my motorcycle (but I went over them instead lol).Yes I can sometimes laugh about it as serious as it was.I still have a broken leg being held together with two plates and 17 screws(broke about a half a dozen more places).
But this is about you and by all means get out there and have some fun and take her along as well, is there any reason she cant go?Maybe not right after surgery but not long after.
I have been confined to crutches and wheelchair(over a year now) and I make every effort to get out there and enjoy life-even though it can be painful.Sitting around the house for me is the worse rehab as I become depressed quite easily with too much idle time .
Hang in there and be strong it will get better.
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Gale Hawkins
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We just did 7 hour trip yesterday and did not leave until 4:30 PM. We were bored and missing the MH. It took about 10 gallons of gas but it was nice and good for the MH. We try to get our tires to 100+ every couple weeks anyway by driving.
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Chuck&Gail
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Sure hope your wife feels better.
Any chance she can go on short trips? My DW can't walk very far, but we carry scotters (outdoor and indoor types) with us and off we go. Can't do much each day, but go we will.
Feel free to cry on our shoulders any time. Many of us here know the feeling.
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chester490
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Maybe you could build a ramp of some sort so she could get in and out of the motorhome easier?
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