McGoo
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I have been married 49 yrs and we are both in pretty good shape. We are practically fulltimers (9 months or more a yr) and when we sell our home it will be more. We are so lucky and I really hope your luck comes back and you get on the road. You are in a beautiful area, why don't you try some overniters along the seashore and just reflect. The ocean is a great place to do that. Good luck and I just said a little prayer for the both of you.
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marly
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Cool Mike, I can relate somewhat to your and your wife's situation. My wife and I are retired, she from a large corporation and I from auto body repair. We are in reasonable health and have a comfy home and income. My problem is she won't quit doing for our grandchildren. I want to go on trips,etc. She wants to help our grandkids, so she baby sits free for them. Ties us down and keep us home.
I am an AA member with only 27 years of happy sobriety, and I still get into the self-pity and resentment. Poor me,poor me,pour me. I did not misspell that.
When I get into the "stinking thinking", I have learned through the years to start realizing I am not the most important person(baby) in the world. I can take time out and recognize where I am headed. Then I can square myself with my wife,with God and me. I can start to be aware of all that I(we) have to be grateful for. With this my attitude starts to change,I feel better and I can thank God for all His gifts. When I maintain an attitude of gratitude every thing goes better. I know it is not easy to live with an ill person. In my family I am the sick one,I try my wife's patience every day, dragging her down with me. I am a sick person trying to recover, not a bad person trying to get better. Your wife is not holding you back, she is the one God gave you to care for. You must give yourself an occasional boost by knowing you can be her support. Through my weakness( for alcohol) came my strength, a God of my understanding. One that I can turn to any time, any where, when I need a boost.
Cool Mike, please take time to look around you at all the blessings you have received. From God, from your wife, your dogs and your health. When you start a gratitude list, you will start to come alive, your whole outlook on life will improve. Mine has by writing this, opening my self-centered little brain to another persons thoughts and trying to help. May the God of your understanding Bless you and keep you. Remember God loves you and so do we and there is nothing you can do about it! Keep on keeping on! Marlan
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computerbug
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You know you don't have to go 500 miles. Take her on a short trip even if it isn't over night. One of our friends had double knee surgery and her husband had one of those lifts put on the rv for the motorized chair and a chair lift to get her in and out. He took her to rehab and everywhere. She's doing fine now and swears she kept her sanity by going off in the rv.In fact she said it was easier to use the potty and shower on the rv instead of the house.Good Luck
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Cool Mike
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First I want to say Im overwhelmed at the number of good hearted people, that gave there time to read my post and reply from there hearts. Aside from the large lump in my throat, and slightly red eyes, I am happier and believe I understand myself, and my situation better that I did yesterday.
My DWs first knee surgery is set for Aug 20th, and has been postponed several times, the last time because the surgeon was run over on his bicycle, but not hurt seriously, just enough to set things back 30 days or so.
I do thank all of you, for helping make me stronger, so that I can help her through this rough spot in life, that's lasted so long. For her its been 20 years of illness, and I have no right to complain. Yes I had several heart attacks and two bypass surgeries, but I feel good now.
And I clearly remember saying "in sickness or in health" and I will honer that until my last day.
Will both get better soon, and be back on the road, even if its only a mile or two at first just to look at the ocean. Thats the same one some drive thousand of miles to see, and I see every day and take for granted.
We do live in one of the most beautiful places in our country, and are lucky for that, and a lot of other things as well. Some times I loose track of all of the good things in life, when you get showered with the bad a little to often.
Were both 65 this year, and Im a Viet Nam vet, and should be happy were still hear at all, there are a lot of people that dont live this long.
There are so many times we have had someone looking out for us, and in ignorance passes it off as just good luck.
Thanks for the help. Mike.
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javaseuf
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Mike, I have built a number of accessable RV's in my 30 years in the business.
This sounds like as good a reason as any to get back up and visit your neck of the woods. So, if I can be of assistance helping you rig something on the MH to make it easier for your wife to use, let me know and I'm there! PM me if I can help.
I have had many good times in Mendo County camping in tents and PuPs and would love to visit again.
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Cool Mike wrote:First I want to say Im overwhelmed at the number of good hearted people, that gave there time to read my post and reply from there hearts. Aside from the large lump in my throat, and slightly red eyes, I am happier and believe I understand myself, and my situation better that I did yesterday.
I totally agree. The members here are the greatest!!
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Hiker3
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Cool Mike,
I am glad you posted your message to the forum. You will continue to be surprised at the number of families here who have health illnesses -- but they still go camping. It is inspiring to me to see how folks do cope with limitations -- especially since my family has begun to have health problems, too.
And Cool Mike, like others said above, please take a one-night trip and come back to give a trip report to your wife. It most likely will cheer her up -- and it will give her something to look forward to when she recovers from the August surgery. I just had 2 surgeries on my hands and the only thing that kept me going was the fact that camping season starts very soon for us.
Take care. You are allowed some "down days," but come back to the forum whenever you need to talk.
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kokosfriend
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I have rather serious osteoarthritis and have had 5 joint replacements I am looking forward to a Back fusion next!! My questions to the surgeon are always - when can I go out in the motorhome? Once I get into the RV I am better off than at home as things are so close. We were living in the RV when my forst shoulder replacement was done and the PT had to come ut and give PT in the motorhome!! If you can get here into the rig, take a short trip and see if she enjoys being out. Even if I cannot get out, I was always happy to look out and enjoy.
Bless you for your devoting to your wife.
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Get'n R Kicks
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I am truly sorry for your situation. I have medical issues myself. And have a wife 16 yrs,which we dated 6 before we where married, a total of 22 yrs.( How did I ever make it.) But we will stick by each other to the end. Well I guess I will, and she says she will.But I would take a short jaunt, and snap a few photos, and bring them back and share them. After she sees the pics, maybe she will want to go with you. And as you know, sometimes we can all have too much company, or maybe too long of a visit. Maybe you both could use a little alone time. And we will send prayers for the surgery and the whole situation.
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bfast54
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Mike, I just came across this thread, and I agree with the members who say............ you need to find a way that you can get your wife in and out, of the RV , once her surgery is over.
You do not need to travel 100, 75, or 50 miles to RV, I often go to the next "town" and go camping for a day or two.
You know all the people you meet-see camping, stop by one of their sites, and start up a conversation... you will be friends before you know it (but, you already know that  )
Try "going out on your own" a time or two, make sure you have a cell phone, and try a night or two away, (if the Mrs wants you to), and meet some new friends, as it were.
Hope her surgery comes out ok, and let us know what you do, and how it works out.
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